Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Is it worth saving

It am so totally amazed when I hear that the National divorce rate is around 50%. My husband and I have been married for 41 years now and don't get me wrong it has not always been a walk in the park. There was a time when we separated after about 4 years of marriage and the biggest problem we had then was a lack of communication. We didn't talk to each other about the problems that were bothering each of us. We finally sat down one evening and talked about things and would wonders ever cease the problems were not that big. But when we didn't talk about them they seemed like mountains that we would never cross over. We didn't go to anyone for counseling but if I had know about the National Institute of Marriage we might have checked into getting some help from them. If I had known of all of the programs they have I might have saved myself a lot of grief early in our marriage. They have marriage counseling sessions all over the United States and I really believe that if you are having problems in your marriage you should try to work them out and only get a divorce as a final option when the marriage is not salvageable.


With the national divorce rate around 50%, there is no doubt that many marriages run into communication problems at some point. There is a communication epidemic. The National Institute of Marriage has created marriage counseling programs and resources utilizing a structure that is the most powerful format they have found for helping couples who feel stuck and hopeless. They have designed several programs to help couples move past the barriers and experience the marriage of their dreams.
NIM's Intensive Marriage Counseling Programs are unique from weekly marriage counseling in three distinctive ways:

· Intensive Marriage Counseling Format: Committing to an extended amount of concentrated time like the 2 or 4 day Marriage Intensive allows people to get to the root of the problem and stick with it in order to work through it. If you’ve been in traditional marriage counseling before, you may have experienced how you spend the first half catching up from the week before, the second half getting into the real issues, and then the time is gone. The Intensive format is designed so that people have the chance to go deeper without many of the other distractions of daily life and have enough discuss to consider solutions.

· Efficiency: One of the first steps in the process is an extensive assessment with some questionnaires. This allows the therapists to gather background information and can get an idea of the best strategy to proceed before you arrive for your session.

· Marriage Counselors: The counselors at the National Institute of Marriage are specialists in this area. One analogy we like to use is that of the Mayo Clinic: people go to their regular physician but may be sent to a specialist to work with specific areas. The NIM marriage therapists have been trained in this format to maximize its effectiveness. Also, the NIM marriage counseling programs provide the perspectives and insight of two professionals rather than one.
If you are considering divorce, you must try the National Institute of Marriage before giving up. They have developed a continuum of care that meets couples wherever they may be in their relationship. Regardless of the health of their marriage they have a service that can help couples improve their marital satisfaction. Visit their website at http://www.nationalmarriage.com. Read the incredible testimonies from the couples that saved their marriages by attending a Marriage Intensive at the National Institute of Marriage.


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